Today I went live on Facebook to talk about our efforts to eradicate the words “I can’t” from our vocabularies.
I think my favorite part of the #IAmLimitless movement is the PERSEVERANCE, even in the face of adversity. It’s easy feeling on top of the world and like anything is possible when things are going well. It’s SO much harder to hold onto that when things get tough and don’t go how you expect them to.
Think of it in terms of running. When things feel great, I could run forever. When they don’t, every step forward is like moving lead-covered legs. Or my yoga practice. I love when it feels utterly luscious, but there are definitely days where things are just downright uncomfortable and I can’t hold anything. It’s easy to want to go run or go do yoga when things feel good. But they don’t always. It can be really hard, and even seem impossible. But that doesn’t mean I can’t. Ever. No matter how much we might like to say it…
As my girl Genevieve said, being LIMITLESS is a mindset. Our brains work in so many mysterious ways, including telling ourselves lies about what we are capable of doing and inflicting self-doubt, causing us to say “I can’t.”
Take Christine’s example of pull-ups. I for one haven’t done a pull-up since elementary school. For whatever reason. When I look at a pull-up bar or one of those hand grips on the wall meant for climbers, I feel this immediate kernel of self-doubt. My brain automatically tells me I can’t do a pull-up. WHY?! Maybe I haven’t done one in years and years. Maybe I’m recovering from an injury. Maybe I don’t have the upper body strength to do one, at least for now. However, NONE of those reasons mean that I’ll never be able to do a pull-up. Most people aren’t able to bust out pull-ups like a Marine with no training whatsoever. It’s exactly that, you train. You set the goal, you set up a plan with small and achievable steps to work with, and you prove that “can’t” is just a word that has zero effect on you.
Sometimes it’s just you against yourself. “I can’t do pull-ups “ is something I just to tell myself but my 2018 mindset is that “I CAN do pull-ups.” I just need a little help from my handy dandy band that I got at @thefitnessarmory here in San Diego. This year is about defying the odds and getting “I CAN’T” out of our vocabulary! Join me tomorrow morning with @gixofit as we take on 40 min Endurance Run/Walk! • • Stay tune through the whole month of January too and follow the hashtag #iamlimitless for more inspiration and motivation!#sponsored #sweatpinkpartner #gixofit #sweatpink • • • • • #sweatpinkambassador #fitnessmotivation #ﬁtlife #healthandfitness #nolimit #strongwomen #gettingstronger #gettinghealthy #gettinginshape #newyearnewme #lifestyleblogger #lifestylebloggers #lifestyleblogs #lifestyleblog #sandiegoblogger #sandiegoblog #sandiegolifestyle #sandiegolife #sandiego #sdbloggers #instablogger
Autumn talked about how the mind can set these limits for us, using self-doubt and other “mechanisms” we’ll call them. Autumn was out sledding with her family, but was afraid to sled over the lake. A fair fear, but what was blocking her was the fear she’d break the ice. Unfounded since there were plenty of other adults sledding right there as well. The brain is just plain weird sometimes. To look at it objectively is kind of fascinating to me, which is probably why I majored in psychology. But it’s so hard to do that for yourself. It takes so much courage to recognize what your obstacles are, confront them, and then kick them to the curb! Oh, and Autumn totally sledded her butt off!
In today’s #selfcarestory I want to open up about weird limiting beliefs. Do you have them? Not your typical ones… the weird ones. Like “I can’t sled on a frozen lake, because I’ll break it, because I’m so big” …but 25 other adults can run on it and be fine. But I’d break it. Or, I can’t be excited for my husband for doing a workout or a Whole30 unless I’m also doing it, because *obviously* he’s doing this AT me to send me a message. ITS WEIRD STUFF. And total nonsense. It’s putting bizarre limits on my own fun, my own excitement, my own body, and my own ability to enjoy myself in varied situations. This weekend I pushed the edge of that limit, that I can’t play on the sledding lake. It felt terrifying. To not only do it, but to starkly recognize what my fear was. And then… do it anyway. This is helping me to face other strange thoughts im holding. Like that I can’t have short hair because of my round face. Or I can’t do a video with a live trainer because they’ll think im a joke when they see my pace/numbers… confronting.them.all. However seemingly ridiculous they are. @gixofit @fitapproach #iamlimitless
Sometimes there IS a real physical limit, like De’s foot being in a boot, Jamie’s placenta previa, my dad’s recovery. Being active people, we definitely identify with the activities we love to do. And when we can’t do those things, all kinds of stuff comes up. We feel frustrated and down, depressed even. And probably more stressed since we can’t do what is an outlet. We question our identities. We feel like failures. All of this sounds very dramatic, but we all know it’s a very real feeling. And it generally doesn’t come up until you literally can’t do something. Like when I tweak my shoulder and can’t handstand, who am I? won’t stop ringing through my head. But the idea of being LIMITLESS is pushing through, and our tribe is absolutely doing that!
I’m in NO way condoning De to take her foot out of the boot and go run, or for Genevieve to run on her sprained ankle. That’s not what I mean. I mean “pushing through” by feeling a little down, acknowledging it, and then getting the eff over it. I tell myself this all the time, even right now with a bum hip and knee. So I can’t go run 5-10 miles 4 times a week right now. So what?! I CAN go do yoga, I CAN go to spin class, I CAN go for a hike, and CAN do all the Gixo cross training workouts to get my hip back in working order.
It’s a shift in expectations. A shift in mindset. A decision to focus on what I can do rather than dwell on what I word-previously-known-as-can’t.
I’ve LOVED seeing De working core and pull-ups with that boot on her foot. I’ve loved seeing Jamie, who is THE ultra runner / mountain goat extraordinaire, back in the pool swimming laps and getting her miles in walking everywhere while she can’t really run (thanks, Baby Danger). I’ve seen that resilience in my dad, when at the happiest and healthiest I’ve ever seen him had to get a bone marrow transplant. He can’t ski and paddle board yet, but he’s out walking the beach and trucking on the stationary bike in our gym.
LIMITLESS is mental. It’s being able to push through the blocks your brain wants to put on you. The fear, the self-doubt, the anxiety. All of those thoughts and emotions are real. We’re human and they happen. Being LIMITLESS is about what you do when those emotions are flowing. Are you going to sit back and wallow, or are you going to cry it out and then get back out there however you can??
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